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Marriage separation is always difficult for everybody. It is a hard decision to make but, there comes a time where you feel like there is no other option. Marriage separation is mired with many myths and they include the following. Some think that you cease to be a real person when you become single. There is nothing further from the truth and, in life, you are good enough to be single. Other people know that marriage is for life and stay no matter what. I do not wish to suggest that marriage is not for life but, sometimes, many break up for many reasons. The other thing that people say is that children must be raised with both parents present. There is no doubt that there are many advantages that children who have both parents have. However, this is not to say that you need to take hell because of the children. Another popular myth is that women who leave their families in marriage separation are bad mothers. The following facts represent what is true and common today. 12% of all women live alone in reality. 

This shows that it is very much possible for woman to live alone. More than half the populations of people who get divorced have children. The children grow up to become respectable member of society. There are very many things you need to consider when you are preparing for separation. First, you need to ask yourself whether you are sure about the separation. It is not a simple thing to walk out of your marriage. You are the only person who can make the decision and, you should reevaluate your options carefully. If you find that there is no other solution, plan for your exit. There are people who move out without considering the various factors that are involved. You need to take into account what the legal implications are and, how you are going to survive financially. Other things you need to consider is whether the children will come with you or whether you, will leave the children.

The following are the things you need to consider when you are contemplating separation. They are practical steps you need to take to ensure you stay ahead. You need to write down the date of your separation in your dairy or notebook. You then need to list all your assets and debts. They should be both joint and personal. You then need to consider your personal situation then draw up a budget. Another vital step you need to take is freeze joint accounts at banks and in other financial institutions. The other vital thing you can do is to open your very own bank account. This way, you will be in a position to go on with your life and, your saving culture. You will then redirect your pay to your account. If you need to change your will, you can do so. The following are some of the things that you should keep copies of. You should have copies of the passport, birth certificate, citizenship papers, health care card, bank statements and many other things.


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